He doesn't contact me between dates?

Alright, I'll shoot at this one. I work a lot at a very stressful job and nothing against my wife but I really hate being bothered at work with anything that is not immediately important. Also, when I get home (after working 12-14 hours) I really just want unwind. Other things, such as conversation, gossip, feelings, stuff like that is just piling on to the stress from the day. I know it sounds cruel but honestly trying loving a job that requires all of your brainpower 12-14 hours a day some time. My wife and I have to schedule time each week when we spend time together and I devote all of my energy and attention to those moments. Its not that I dont care what she has to say, its just that I cant honestly pay good attention to her if I dont set that time aside. Perhaps this is your situation. He may simply not have the energy or brain capacity to handle both. I would say one, if you are okay with that kind of lifestyle (really okay, not just able to cope) then continue pursuing it. Otherwise, its only fair to discuss this with him and get his true feelings not just my random guess based on my experience. You may find that he does not even realize that he's doing it and really likes you and will make more of an effort. I mean, we are men. Not real bright. Sometimes you have to tell us what you want before we give it to you.